How to Stay Positive When You’re Surrounded by Negativity

If someone were to ask you, you would probably say that you were a pretty happy person. You try to keep a positive frame of mind and stay upbeat. It can be difficult, though, to maintain a positive mindset when you find yourself surrounded by negativity.

Here are a few ways you can help keep your positive attitude whenever you look around and find that everyone else is being negative.

It’s nothing personal.

People can often get into the bad habit of talking negatively. It can be aimed directly at you or simply be about a myriad of other things that are going on in that person’s life. It’s hard to face an onslaught of negativity, especially when you are the target of it. But remember, that this is their issue, not yours. If their criticism is unfounded, you can be sure that the complaints are probably just a way for the person to vent. Take a breath, put on a smile and tell yourself, “It’s not me, it’s them.”

Be the bigger person.

It’s not fun being around a negative person. But just imagine how miserable it must be to be the negative person. They are full of sour emotions and see themselves as the victim of life. They are probably scared and hurting in some way. Anger is one way that many people hide their troubles away from others. Try to be compassionate and give them the benefit of the doubt.

Bring them a little positivity.

What can you do to help turn their day around? It could be something small, like acknowledging a recent accomplishment. Bring them a snack from the vending machine. Even simply asking them how they are doing can help them to open up a little and get things off their chest. Do what you think would cheer you up on an off day. If you are met with an even bigger wave of negativity, just walk away. You know that you tried, and you can’t win them all!

Remember: you get to choose the people in your life!

We are not physically attached to every person we deal with day in and day out. It is okay to cut out anyone who brings absolutely no positive value to your life. Friends, family, coworkers, spouses- if they just don’t want to be a part of your positive lifestyle, then it’s okay to limit contact with them or do away with the relationship altogether. There is a whole world of people out there who can make you smile, so don’t waste your happiness on those who don’t want to share it.

What do you do to stay positive every day? Have you had to make some tough decisions about who stays and who goes? Let us know!


  1. I’m having troubles wit5h if I’m in a positive mood and someone tries to bother me by making function of me but I was doing nothing to hurt you in any way I was just minding my Bis. But how do I stay positive if someone is Tlingit about me or bothering me in any way

  2. I don’t necessarily get to CHOSE who’s in my life, I have to LIVE with my negative qualifier. I’ve recently had to move back in with a family member who is helping me to get back on my feet after a divorce, and this person is chronically miserable. I have been looking for employment, and although I am not the problem per say, this particular relative just relishes in their own misery about everything day in and day out, and to me, their life looks like a brick of gold compared to where my daughter and I are now stuck. What do you suggest I do now when I cannot CHOSE who’s in my life and simply ‘walk away’, because I have no choice but to live here, and am unemployed? Its not like I can take daily trips out of the house because of funds, and there aren’t many places to go without at least $5…I have to stay here and endure their negativity, and I’m afraid its permeating my own usual positive outlook, and will eventually seep into my young daughter if I can’t get us out of here fast!

  3. Hi, Jamie!
    I’m sorry to hear you are going through a rough time. I can totally understand the situation you are in and just how difficult it is. All I can say is hang in there! It will get better. Just keep doing what you’re doing by looking for employment and staying positive in a difficult situation. Having a great attitude while going through it all will help tremendously, too. I know its not easy, been there, done that as well. I wish you much success in all your endeavors. Thanks for commenting. I hope you come back and comment some more. 🙂
    Deb 🙂

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