How to Cope With Unemployment

The loss of a job can be a very traumatic experience for most people. It can have a negative impact on your physical, mental and emotional health. It brings financial insecurity, wears away your sense of identity and can lead to a breakdown in family relationships.

It is important to remember that you must take care of yourself after you lose your employment. Here are some ways that you can cope with the loss and get yourself prepared for the future.

Acknowledge Your Grief

The initial response to losing your job may be to go directly out and start hunting for a new one. This is not always the best plan, however. If it will not create a great financial strain, take the time to mourn the loss of the job and focus on reducing your stress. Reevaluate your priorities for the future. You might feel pressure to form a plan for the rest of your life but it is important to take time to step back and sift through your emotions first.

Go Through the Stages

Losing a job can trigger similar emotional stages to those associated with divorce and death. Those are shock, denial, sadness, guilt, anger and acceptance. You can experience some or all of these emotional stages, and not necessarily in order. You need to take the time to work through each stage.

Let Go of Anger and Resentment

Keeping hold of anger and resentment will eat away at your happiness and stop you from moving forward. Just because you allow yourself to let go of the anger doesn’t mean you are disregarding what happened. It is allowing you to regain your control. Staying in a negative mindset will sap your energy and creativity and stop you from concentrating on your future.

Create a Realistic Budget

During times of strained financial resources, it is important to trim the excess from your budget. Assess your actual income and expenses. Decide where you can cut corners and consider getting a part-time position to help cover your necessary bills (rent, utilities, insurance, etc.).

Get Into a Routine

Set up a daily routine that you can stick to and make sure you are taking care of yourself. Get some exercise each day, get enough sleep and eat a balanced diet. Find ways to keep your mind stimulated, like reading and socializing. Avoid drinking and gambling to excess. Reward yourself for the progress you make. Get up and get dressed each day to stay motivated.

Don’t Isolate Yourself

It is common for people who lose their jobs to shut themselves away from others, but this can keep you from moving forward. Get out of the house. Visit friends and family. Join groups of people with similar interests. Reach out to others for support.

Spend Time Volunteering

Volunteering is a great way to get out into the community and help others. You will be able to network, gain new skills and stay active.

Increase Your Skills

This could be an ideal time to build on the skills you have and even branch out to learn new skills. Maybe you can look into another career field that you had not considered before. Research subjects online or sign up for local seminars. If you can afford the cost, sign up for classes at the local college.

Find Free Activities

Almost every town has activities that you and your family can enjoy for no cost. Look for free museum days, public events and lectures. Go to public parks or the library. Becoming more involved in your town is a great way to build connections and stay motivated.

This phase is not going to last forever. It is important to stay motivated while you are coping with the loss of your job. Keeping a positive attitude will help you to focus on your future and work to overcome obstacles in life.

Are you coping with the loss of your job? What steps are you taking to stay motivated? What advice would you give to someone else in your position?

Managing Your Persistent Fears, Depression, and Anxieties

Everybody deals with anxiety and depression; however some people have a hard time in managing it. As a result, here is a brief list of techniques that a person can use to help manage their most persistent fears and every day anxieties.  When facing a current or upcoming task that overwhelms you with a lot of anxiety, the first thing you can do is to divide the task into a series of smaller steps. Completing these smaller tasks one at a time will make the stress more manageable and increases your chances of success.

Sometimes we get stressed out when everything happens all at once. When this happens, a person should take a deep breath and try to find something to do for a few minutes to get their mind off of the problem.  A person could get some fresh air, listen to some music, or do an activity that will give them a fresh perspective on things. A person should visualize a red stop sign in their mind when they encounter a fear provoking thought. When the negative thought comes, a person should think of a red stop sign that serves as a reminder to stop focusing on that thought and to think of something else. A person can then try to think of something positive to replace the negative thought.

Another technique that is very helpful is to have a small notebook of positive statements that makes you feel good. Whenever you come across an affirmation that makes you feel good, write it down in a small notebook that you can carry around with you in your pocket.  Whenever you feel depressed or frustrated, open up your small notebook and read those statements.   This will help to manage your negative thinking.

Learn to take it one day at a time. Instead of worrying about how you will get through the rest of the week, try to focus on today. Each day can provide us with different opportunities to learn new things and that includes learning how to deal with your problems. You never know when the answers you are looking for will come to your doorstep. We may be ninety-nine percent correct in predicting the future, but all it takes is for that one percent to make a world of difference.

Take advantage of the help that is available around you. If possible, talk to a professional who can help you manage your depression and anxieties. They will be able to provide you with additional advice and insights on how to deal with your current problem.  By talking to a professional, a person will be helping themselves in the long run because they will become better able to deal with their problems in the future.  Remember that it never hurts to ask for help.  Dealing with our persistent fears is not easy.  Remember that all you can do is to do your best each day, hope for the best, and take things in stride. Patience, persistence, education, and being committed in trying to solve your problem will go along way in fixing your problems.

About The Author

Stan Popovich is the author of “A Layman’s Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods” – an easy to read book that presents a general overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com/